It is a good tactic to attack the enemy with overwhelming odds

Divorce: If you decide you didn't marry the right person, you can eliminate your union by typing /divorce and confirming your choice (this can be done anywhere). Each partner must use the avatar gold /divorce command to be eligible for marrying someone else.

Once this occurs, your wedding ring will disappear from your inventory window. If you purchased multiple wedding rings, only the one linked to your marriage will disappear when you use the /divorce command.

However, if you choose to only lead your followers in battle, protecting yourself from dieing, you will want high Charisma. Your charisma determines how many members your Blood Pledge can control (double your charisma, triple if level 50+).

Or, in game terms, how many members your character can handle. This is important because the more members you have will give you a better chance of winning any war/seige.

It is a good tactic to attack the enemy with overwhelming odds. 18 charismas will be your choice.

Now, if you can manage to get high constitution and charisma in the same roll, keep it and you will be able to have many members as well as have good HP.

A very good combination. Prince(ss)'s are also known for being able to get high strength. If you can get that with constitution and/or charisma you most likely have good stats.